Nothing is more loving than giving someone a good "I told you so", especially when it comes to our bisexual dating. I feel guilty about it when my best friend in high school went on a date with the women who had hurt his heart and ended their relationship in shambles again, I gave him a big comfort -- I told you. When I had a bad relationship with my ex - boyfriend, more than few of my friends predicted that they all insisted on rubbing it in my face.
To some people, this is human nature. They found that nothing in the world is more satisfactory than getting the right thing (and let others know that they are wrong).
But this nature, although the trend is further smug for bisexual. There is a kind of institutional joy, when a person's bi, especially a bisexual man, who comes out as a gay. There are few things that look like the LGBTQ and straight media loves.
Let's put the Olympic diving Prince Tom Daley. As early as December, Tom Daley appeared on YouTube and said he was dating a man, but he clarified, "of course I still like girls." It doesn't have to said that Tom is bisexual. Many people, however, questioned his bisexuality in the media that he was sure to come out as gay later. In fact, it has led to a big debate about bisexual men.
Then, five months later, he said he was attracted to both men and women, and in the talk show, ITV2's celebrity juice, where he was picked up by his sexual orientation. The master asked him, "let's start to get nervous." You are a gay man. " Daley responded, "I have some embarrassing changes," or "I". With the repetition of watching video, I can say, I'm not sure which one is. But it's obvious that "I'm a homosexual" is not leaving his mouth, despite the fact that there are many news media reports. One of the headlines is "Tom Daley: I'm absolutely gay, not bisexual."
Only a few small stores clearly show that these are not the words used by Daley. The media put the words in his mouth. Just a few weeks ago, Daley appeared in the talk show, New York Times started the "scientific exploration that bisexuals exist," citing gay writer Andrew Sullivan predicted that Daley will serve as a gay man, because of using many two-way labels as a stepping stone on the road of "mature" of homosexuality in their teenage people.
It's true that many homosexuals use this label in this short way; many bisexuals do not. If we put it here, I think we'll be all right. I don't think there is anything double admitting that some men use labels as a transitional step.
If you don't have the desire to be right, or the joy of a larger institution, then you really don't need to say something. If he later behaved like a homosexual, when you didn't say anything at first, you could say, "it's great!" Or, if you want to give him a big fat man, I'll tell you about it, OK! Do it! You can tell him, you always think he is gay, laugh it off.
But let's say something else happens. You tell biff that he's going to be homosexual, but it turns out you're wrong. He sees BI as a day of death. You are depressed, invalid, and damaged. A strange guy goes to you, you deny his identity. Imagine that if you come out for a queer homosexual, he responds, "Nahhhh, you're not gay. "That's really hurt.
So don't be complacent about correcting other people's sexual orientation, let's support you. Let us believe. If you believe too much, let's shut up. Because when you remove "I told you", you soon realize that you only hurt their process and sexual identity.