My friend Lawrence who has always openly identified himself as a gay recently confessed to me his bisexuality . In our conversation, he didn't know if he could still say he was gay-af, and he worried by using this popular phrase would erase his bisexuality.
Many of the Bi I met tell their bisexuality to me when they find out that I'm a bi activist. Many of these people have been identified as gay or lesbian, in order to continue to be part of the gay community. One way many people do this is to use the well-known phrases and terms to identify them as gay, even if they come out as BI.
The more popular terms and statements about queer is usually the center of gay. This is partly because of the fact that gay is not true in gay and straight communities, and really strange people. Most people don't think bisexual has culture or community. Say something like, "I'm gay AF" allows bi folks to communicate with gay, "We are part of the queer community, I'm one of you”.Then they don't have to worry about Bi-phobia and come out as BI easily .
This is in the last few cases. Most recently, when Krristen Stewart came to the United States and hosted the Saturday night scene, he said, "I'm happy, man. "There has been speculation over Stewart's sexual orientation for years, but until Saturday night, she made herself known to the world. She said she was gay and allowed her to officially appear on state television soon. The whole world return gave her a large Duitou news.
However, Stewart identifies bi, she said just a few days after her announcement. In the guardian interview, Stewart said, "if you're bisexual, it's not confusing. For me, just the opposite. "This is about her sexual orientation and subtle conversation is not so tense, especially those who have praised her "gay" queer media statement.
Another example is when activist Rose Uscianowski faced the then Republican presidential candidate, Ben Carson. Uscianowski said, "do you think I'm gay?" After Carson's conservative Christian faith (I've written a long history of anti gay theology about his name), he said people chose homosexuality.
However, I think it's more important than ever to say "bisexual.". As a community, the word "bisexual" is strategic. We need to be seen as a community and recognized, so that the gaps between our communities can be addressed. No matter what gender tags we use, we're all in non-binary groups, and face the same problems.
I'm not arguing that BI shouldn't say "I'm gay" or "gay AF", especially when individuals can and really have multiple features. In some cases, the use of this language even has a very special strategic purpose. But one reason is that people feel the need to make these terms, partly because of a lack of understanding of androgyny, and it's not seen as part of a "real" gay culture. If we continue to erase ourselves through this strategic deployment, it also makes it difficult to raise the awareness of androgyny. Maybe it's time to popularize the phrase "I'm bi-af.".